Ep 17 - Shift Your Mindset for a Powerful Reset

Transform Your Life with a Mindset Reset! 

Hey ADHD fam! 👋 Ready to explore the power of mindset shifts? Join us as we discover how adjusting our mindset can be a game-changer in managing ADHD.

In this video, we'll uncover practical strategies and insights to:

•  Gain a fresh perspective
• Empower yourself with mindset techniques
•  Enhance focus and productivity
• Embrace self-compassion and resilience

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Together, let's navigate the journey towards managing ADHD and unlocking your full potential.

Transcript

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You know, are you rocking up in your corner and cheering yourself on through life or? Are you really just being a dick to yourself and putting yourself down 24 seven? Because here's the thing. If you want to reset and you want to choose again and you want to, you know, create something different in your life, you can't do that while ever you are listening to the asshole in your head. Right? Because all that does is lead us down a path of judgment, shame, guilt, anxiety, anger, frustration, resentment, like I could keep going. I am so excited to be finally back talking to you all, like it has been a red hot minute. So if you are new to this space, Welcome. My focus, instead of just being on broad mental health, I've really kind of niched down a little bit in terms of ADHD. And so what I want to do every week is answer your questions about ADHD. Today is all about mindset. And if you know me well, you know that I am all about The words you use to speak to yourself. Now, if you just sort of sat for a minute, even just thought about the word reset, like what is the word reset mean to you? You know, reset to me used to mean like, I'm doing something wrong. I needed to change something and I needed to get back on track. Right. And for me, when I did that, it really come from a place of like, like have to and pressure and it wasn't fun. So I've actually changed for me the meaning of the word reset. And for me now, reset means like I get to choose again, right? I get to stop in this moment in my life and choose the direction that I'm heading in. Now, if you think about it like that, like what a powerful fucking tool reset can be for you, because what that means is that any point in your life, any season in your life, you get to literally stop. Check in and choose something different. That is the power of being human, right? Like we get so caught up in this idea of like, life always has to be the same and we have the routine and we have to go to work and we have to blah, blah, blah. And you know, some of that is necessary, right? Like we need an income to live. I'm not challenging that, but what I'm challenging is. The way that you show up every day, maybe the job that you're, you think you have to stay in. You don't, you know, maybe that house that you think you have to live in. You don't like, maybe you can go and buy that fucking caravan and travel around Australia. So whatever it is for you, like I want you to know that at any point, any point in your life you get to stop and you get to choose again. And that is what reset means to me. But here's the thing about resetting, right? Is that we actually can't create something new from the same thinking that we had when we were in the old. And so what's so important is to just maybe like today or tomorrow, take a few hours or just one. And just notice your stream of thoughts, right? Write them down on a piece of paper and just notice, like, what are you saying to yourself on a daily basis? What are the limits that you are placing on yourself? What are you telling yourself you can't have or be or do? You know, are you rocking up in your corner and cheering yourself on through life or Are you really just being a dick to yourself and putting yourself down 24 seven? Because here's the thing. If you want to reset and you want to choose again and you want to, you know, create something different in your life, you can't do that. Well, ever you are listening to the asshole in your head, right? Because all that does is lead us down a path of judgment, shame, guilt, anxiety, anger, frustration, resentment. Like I could keep going. Okay. So what I want you to do today is I want you to like get a piece of paper, create two columns on the left hand side for the day. You're going to write down all of your stream of thoughts, all of it to the point where it's like sky, this is fucking annoying. Right? And then what I want you to do is two things. I want you to take whatever thoughts on that side are helpful and put them into the other column. And then what I want you to do is whatever is unhelpful, We're going to do one of two things with those sentences. We are either going to delete them, which means the next time they show up, it's almost like we're going to block that neural pathway. We're going to be like, Oh, there's that thought that I'm not good enough. Okay, but that's not a useful thought. What do I want to choose instead? And then we're going to reframe it to mean something different. And I know a lot of the times when I Um, when I do mindset work with people that, you know, a lot of people say to me, well, you know, I'm not going to say something positive to myself because I don't believe it. I'd be lying to myself. And my answer to them is like, well, how do you know you haven't been lying to yourself for however many years, like the thoughts that you have and not your own, they're recycled from somebody else. What if they got it wrong? You know, what if you are worthy? What if you can do that job that you've been told you can't? What if you're more fucking capable than you've ever given yourself credit for and you've actually been lying to yourself? Because here's the thing. We believe the thoughts we currently have only because they're familiar, not because they're fucking true. So here's what I believe is if we can start being really mindful of what is not supporting us in terms of our thinking in moving towards the life that we want to create. And instead we can choose differently. And I use that term a lot. Choose. Imagine in one month, three months, three years, what you could do with a new way of thinking. So I challenge you today to take some time to write down the thoughts, to start being super clear on what is unhelpful. And when those thoughts show up, instead of saying to yourself, I am a failure. You're now going to say, Oh, I'm noticing that thought that I'm a failure. It's just a thought, but what thought am I going to choose differently? And maybe the thought for you in that moment is I am going to give this a fucking red hot go and if it works out awesome and if it doesn't, I'll choose again. Do you hear the power in that? Failure is very finite. It's like I do it and if I fail, then I'm stuck. If we kind of switch and we're like, Oh, I'm going to choose it. I'm going to give it a go and if it doesn't work out, I get to choose again. It means that, you know, anything is possible again after that, like infinity, right? So again, let us know in the group, like what are the thoughts that you struggle with? Where are you getting caught up? What recycled thoughts are you holding onto as truth that just might not be truth. And if you were focused on that thing that you wanted, To bring into your life. What are the kind of thoughts that you need to be having in order to move into the direction of the thing that you want? Like, let's just say you want, I'm just making it up, right? But let's just say you want a relationship, like a healthy relationship. If you go looking for a healthy relationship with the thoughts of I'm not good enough, I'm a failure. Everyone's going to reject me. Other people are more important than me. You're not going to find the healthy relationship that you're after. In fact, you're probably going to find people who will use and abuse you. Now here's the thing. It's not your fault where you are at right now, but it is your responsibility to take charge of where you can be in your future. So again, think about it. What do I want? If I want a healthy relationship, what kind of thoughts do I need to have in order to go out there and look for it? So when a healthy thought might be, I deserve respect. I want someone who communicate with me because I'm an awesome communicator. I deserve to be loved in the way that I need to be loved. Do you hear I'm going with this? So that's your task for today, right? Write down the stream of thoughts, get super clear on the ones we're going to start blocking when they show up. And then we're going to reframe or write down new thoughts that are more in line and will support us in getting the thing that we want in our life. And use the Facebook group if you get stuck, if you're unsure, if you need another strategy to give things a go with, we are in it together.